The aftermath

First of all, Ash isn't going to lie. She loves her dad, she is daddy's little girl. So I feel justified to say the last 5 days were hellish for my kids. Here's a sample of what has happened, just so I can look back and see what has gone on.
Stepmom starts off by saying Hunter should go there more, and spend time with his little brother. He shouldn't get the choice of going or not. I always leave it up to my kids. They are 14 and 12, they know what happens there, it's their choice. Dad then called Hunter stupid and made fun of his speech (he's been in speech therapy since age 3). Then they threw their 50 pound 5 year old on my 75 pounder and told him to jump and call Hunter names. The 5 year old stole Hunter's DS, we never did get it at the end of the visit. The 13 year old constantly called Hunter names. When Hunter tried to tell stepmom, she threw Hunter across the room and onto the couch, and then into the bedroom, swearing at him. She told 13 yr old they shouldn't have to worry about Hunter visiting again. All the while, Ash is looking on, watching this happen, daring not to say a word. Dad is tired of repeating himself, tired of telling Hunter to settle down, tired of coming home from his New Year's Eve party to handle a bloody nose, which is my fault of course because I don't have him on an iron supplement. Really? So the ENT and ER visits I do every year are for what? Oh yeah, cauterizing his nose, because the veins or arteries or whatever they are need to be cauterized! Not due to a freakin iron deficiency you moron!
I can't help but be angry, and if they lived closer I'm afraid I would have taken care of this right away. She has no right to lay a hand on my child nor say a bad word to him. Choice words would have been said, but I am the bigger person.